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Introducing ~yours truly~ Mz. Urban Carrie Bradshaw (C'mon take a peek, you KNOW you want to....)

Letting My Bucket Runneth Over...

   A while ago I created an ADULT ( yes, in exactly the way you're thinking) 'creatives-only' cyber chat-room and it's been a nice, little experiment: a lively,support group filled with a variety of intelligent ,artsy, funny,free-minded...FREAKS.. *ahem* I meant people! Sooo as a quick departure from our usual posts about crazy photographs from the internet, random links to YouTube songs and lotsa' "How do you like YOUR sex?" kinda' saucy,cyber-convo (which had become de riguer  more so than creative entries); I  challenged members to write a weekly blog about a topic of their choice OR from my weekly prompt.
Our most recent topic was writing your own "Bucket List".

This was last week...

It was now the END of the week and I STILL had not written mine..arrrrgh!! ( which is kinda' ratchett since I started this lil' project AND came up with our prompts----bad group-administrator--bad!) One of the members, a very talented, fledgling author and group-regular even called me out on it publicly...AND I had it coming too--sooo I took it like a woman, no excuses!  Okaaaay, maybe one lil', lame excuse about the CIAA basketball tourney and hanging out into early morning(<------*blog forthcoming*) ...but no cutting of slack and I knew one way or the other I would have to make time to do my list before Monday of next week or all my credibility as group-administrator was going out the proverbial window!

So without further adieu, I give you my "Bucket List" ( or 'The-Things-I-Should-Be-Doing-Now-OR--Have-Already-Done-But-Ain't-Got-Around-To-It- List)

1. Learn to swim...well:
Yes, I am one of those chicks who LOVES to bob around and even doggie paddle & float in a pool, the ocean, a lake..a jacuzzi even BUT if you ask me to race you by swimming from the kiddie section to anything above 5 feet-----notgonnadoit! I'll let my hair & face get totally soaked but that's it!

2. Learn to speak & understand fluent Spanish ...and NOT just Spanglish!
What can I tell ya', Spanish didn't appeal to my sense of romance like French did----so I took three years of  'La Francais' and now ask me how many time do I ever get to actually USE it with someone?? More than 2/3 of the country speaks Espanol, so I need to learn and El Fasto!

3. Live in Paris, France for at least three months!  
Gosh knows I've tried to get there, even auditioned for a reality TV show that was filming in Paris----lonnnnng story! As a teenager you couldn't tell me that Le French was not the sexiest love-language ever ; 'The City Of Lights"  is home to the: "Louvre", the "Eiffel Tower", the "Moulin Rouge",the "Champs Elysees", etc--how could I not want to know what it's like to live & hopefully love there at least once in my lifetime?!!)

4. Visit & stay a month or two in Johannesburg, South Africa.
While there I want to go to nearby Soweto and see where Nelson Mandela lived, was imprisoned for 27 years and eventually became president of all South Africa from '94-99'! His life is proof that you can turn a horrific situation around to the best! It's also a gorgeous city and I want the pleasure of staying in a four star hotel with 24 hour concierge and have White Afrikaans to serve me,<-----like it or not; to see what it's like for once to live in the majority..(outside of my time in college @ my HBCU, Winston-Salem State University).

5. Visit Tokyo, Brazil and Rome:
Pretty much the same reasons as above: they are all beautiful cities that everyone should visit at least once if they can!

6. Create-write-draw my own successful, animated cartoon series to appear 1st on YouTube and then by popular demand: have it appear regularly on live television!  
 If you know who I REALLY am, my reason is already known and yes, I'd be the 1st in history to do this!

7. Marry again someday...
..Once again, if you know who I REALLY am, you already know...

8. F#ck my man discreetly & incognito while attending a loud,crowded & HYPE concert while the band plays on    Need I say more? Mmmmmmm....

9. Receive & give head while attending that same loud,crowded & HYPE concert while the band plays on      .... again, need I say more? Need I say anything,lol!

10. Become a successful, published author of children's books and/ or graphic novels
 I'm sooo over the 'out-the-trunk' of the car thang',lol! I've been SELF-published for years and I've had my column or art published by quite a few magazines---I want the BIG-deal now, the whole enchilada: the agent, the big-time publisher's house, the speaking engagements, book signings, fancy restaurants & hotels...swag-babay!.

11. To have my 'college body' back OR even smaller.....  
Who wouldn't?

12. To meet President Barack Obama & 1st Lady Michelle Obama
For obvious reasons for most Dems and cuz' I ADORE THEM BOTH!

13. To become a better skier  
I actually learned to ski in my senior year of high-school with the "Explorers" social-networking club but I was so concerned with being cute that I spent more time hanging out in the warm & cozy lounge area where cute guys (who also couldn't ski) were hanging out. I DID eventually get out there on those snowy slopes and ski ; once you experience speeding down a mountain and occasionally air-born like that----there's no feeling in the world like it! I can't wait to go again and really learn this time!

14. Drive down to Florida the whole way, music crunked in my jeep without anyone else taking the wheel!
again, if you know me.....

15. Do more and give more to help find a cure to end Autism :  
'Nuff said.

16. Meet, serve a delicious dinner that I cooked and spend a luxurious weekend with Oprah, Diddy and Tyler Perry :  Okay, that one is a bit far-fetched but ANYTHING is possible----and if I have to just meet & hang out with only one of them---I'll take "O" for the win!


Well, there's my list! I am no longer a blogger-hypocrite and as far as I'm concerned I want as much time and as lonnnnnng as possible to cross my list off as cuz' I'm in no hurry!

Sincerely Yours,
Mz. Urban Carrie Bradshaw-♥

The Urban Fashionista's Guide To Spring Do's, Dont's and WTH?

SO WHAT'S HOT? 
Okay ladies ( and gentlemen too ) just in case some of you aren't clear on the definite 'Do's and Don'ts' of outer-wear this Spring, I've put together a short but not-so-sweet list that should help even the fashion-challenged victim getting towards being 'runway-ready'.... versus..... 'roadkill '

You're good if  you're workin'  hot pants & boy shorts, knee high & over the knee socks, futuristic-sci-fi-warrior attire, high dress splits,

sporty looks, jumpsuits & play suits, patterned pants..especially plaid, sheer fabrics and rockin' your boyfriend's blazers.

WHAT'S NOT (...and never will be)

Sandal Overage and Biscuit Heels …

Okay ladies (and some of you men too) the rule of thumb is: if either your toes or your ankles go beyond the shoe, it’s time to switch to a new size and quit playin’. Now you may have worn a size seven in high school, but you can always rekindle that magic through your yearbook and let your local shoe-salesman give you the Beyonce’ special and Let-em'-Upgrade-Ya’. As for the "Crusty-the-Clown" heels: leave the dough-grindin’ to Popeyes or Bojangles and put some damn Vaseline on ... yep, we see you!

*Example: “ Gurrrrl, Regina told me about those biscuit-heel-havin' chicks at the party last night tryin' to be cute!

If you can afford to wear Prada … you can afford coca-butter too!”

 And now in other news, “The Leather-Report”:

Unless you are living in the colder states like Alaska or one of the Dakotas, it’s time to pack the leather up fellas … and yes, the vests count too. Now, it was okay to rock your shiniest pants and jackets all through March, but after Easter; I don’t care if you just got it off lay-away, there’s no excuse for leather in spring, unless you’re a cow. ... And given the chance, even the cows would probably opt for feathers or somethin’ else come July.

Baby Powder As A Built-In Air Conditioner:

We have all seen these ‘chalky-people’ walkin’ around with visible white powder on them … lookin’ like there’s a crack-buffet on their chest, just so they can stay approximately two degrees cooler in the heat. Now, I want to be universal but I’m talking to Black folks mainly here so unless you’re a mime on your lunch-break, get rid of the White-On-Black skin look (insert obvious “Jungle Fever” joke here)  blend it in and buy yourself a battery-operated fan, it’s that simple.

 Time-Out-For-Tims … (at least for now):

There’s some debate over whether the ever-ubiquitous “Tims” a.k.a. Timberland Boots are still in style now that Lil ‘Wayne and Kanye have attached their considerably famous feet to them at recent award shows. The fact still remains that much like Sara Palin and good sense, boots and warm weather don't match! So for all my lil’ height-challenged dudes; get over the few inches you’ll lose-in-ya-shoes and make it up in your swagga’ ... (ya’ wurnt’ foolin’ nobodyeee anyway shawty’)

 Muffin-Top Hanging Out Shorts and Capri Pants:

I think most ladies (and again, some fellas) got the memo that the “Season of Butt-Cleavage Fashion” has ended, but for those who insist on subjecting the innocent to their plumber's-crack, cover it up and leave the exposed butts in an ashtray … please, before we start pitching pennies up in it.

Cougar-Couture`…

On one hand, I’m a big fan of the “If-you-still-got-it-flaunt-it” attitude, but there’s something to be said for a lady of age who shows a lil’ modesty and class. To all my ‘fifty and flirty’ sisters out there: work your sexy, but if any of the stores you shop in have Justin Bieber or Drake boomin’ on their system you might wanna’ reconsider that baby-tee and miniskirt combo and get it for your daughter……….I’m just sayin’.

Big-Ole-Bama' Straw Hats:

Nuthin’ wrong with a straw hat some days. I have at least one myself… but there’s a fine Mason-Dixon line between southern charm and straight-up country! The shape, style and swagga’ of your hat determines that.

It’s safe to suggest that if you’re wearing your brim almost everyday and you’re not either: (A) carrying a fruit basket through your village fresh from the market; (B) chasing barnyard animals around your crops on the farm; or (C) are in the national tour of “The Color Purple,” … you need to save-up and get your hair ‘did’ or cut it all off … choose.

 Big-Gurlz In Strapless Dresses :

Now, no disrespect to my thick sistahs but some of y’all KNOW you’re wrong!

If your ‘Weapons-Of-Mass-Seduction” look like B52 bombers on standby, you may want to rethink that lil’ bath towel masquerading as a dress to cover up the twins ... or at least take it down to the “Kitty-Kat” club and get paid for your show!

 Skinny-Chicks In 'Poom-Poom' Shorts:

Where did some women get the idea that being very slim means you can dress as raunchy as possible? Even if you have a gluteus-minimus leaning more towards that of the Paris Hilton set, we don’t wanna’ see your lil’ bit of booty meat hanging out the back any more than we wanna' see hers ...ew.

And last but certainly not least:

Year-Around-Tacky-People:

The most heinous of all fashion culprits can be seen late at night creepin' in your local Wal-mart or grocery store; but the truly ‘bold-and bama’ have been spotted at nearby parks and shopping malls..just-all-out-in-the-open-daylight. You know them when you see them and can’t believe they are outside wearing: rollers at any time of the day and any place, bedroom slippers and pajamas in the line ahead of you, doo-rags on the corner, the movies, etc., dirty, Cinderella-looking-mini-prom dresses on their kids while washing clothes at the local Lavanderia; night-club clothing in church; underwear as bathing suits and bathing suits as halter tops and shorts; pants-on-the-ground; th-th-th-thongs strategically worn under baggy jeans; price tags deliberately left on T-shirts and the always offensive cologne-over-funk cover-up …(*ahem-cough-gasp!*)

If you — or someone you know — are wearing or were planning on wearing any of the following from this list outside this Spring, you are a offender and need not only several fashion tickets but a jail sentence!

Until next season, remember: "Style is personal, but taste should be a public matter!”

*Toodles*